I revisit the feeling of failure at least monthly. Failure to get an acceptance, failure to be the best mother, failure to get something done quickly. You'd think that after experiencing this disappointing feeling so often, I would be a pro at moving right along . . . and yet. Failure is difficult for everyone.
Earlier this year, there was a lot of coverage about the resume of failures. The point that this illustrated for Lucy Kellaway of the Financial Times was that failure coincided with trying. So when she wasn't trying new things, she also wasn't getting rejections.
What does this tell us? That when we stop striving to be better and improve ourselves, we comfortably settle into a happy stasis. But isn't there always more? So failure is a sign that we're trying. When we stop trying, we stop growing and yes, sometimes that's easier, but it's also less rewarding. Because sometimes trying pays off.