That Terrible, Wonderful Subject: Money

I've been on a money journey this year. On January 29, I got an email from my marketer about a class that she did last year called the Art of Money. I was skeptical, it sounded a little like a money-making scheme, but after returning to the website multiple times over a couple weeks, I joined the class. Among the plethora of online resources, articles, interviews, worksheets, I found that the first three months of the program were all about figuring out how I feel about money. 

 

So how do I feel about money? I have always known that money comes and money goes, and when I hold it less tightly, sometimes it flows more. I have had the privilege of always having family that could give me money to get me out of a tight spot if I needed, so I was never worried that I wasn't going to have a home or food. I also like the nice things in life, I am willing to splurge on myself and buy the nicer brand or the higher quality furniture. 

 

However, this terrifies my husband, an accountant, because although we always make it work, we have been in some tight spots before and I could never seem to recall how my credit card had suddenly racked up a couple thousand dollars. I was unaware of where the money was going. 

 

So this year, in consideration of my husband's anxiety, and as a gift to myself, I started taking this course. So here are some of the things that I have come to realize in the past eight months of becoming more aware of my relationship to money:

  1. So many parts of life relate to money but socially it is unacceptable to talk about this subject, even with close friends
  2. Up until this summer, my concept of "budget" was similar to most people's concept of "diet"- it felt like deprivation and seemed unsustainable 
  3. When I listen to  my emotions instead of spending when I am feeling sad or anxious or deprived, I can nourish myself holistically instead of putting on a bandaid
  4. I look forward to looking at my credit card and bank statements now instead of crossing my fingers when I open them in hopes that the damage isn't too bad
  5. Money is my friend because it is a tool, and not a means to an end that is always taunting me

I have the pleasure today to introduce my teacher, Bari Tessler Linden, at her 13th Art of Money book reading tonight at the Railyard Performance Center. If these insights intrigue you, then Bari's new book will be a great starting point for your own money journey (and a very affordable one). Please come out if you see this in time, 7pm at 1611 Paseo de Peralta, Santa Fe NM FREE